People suck
I went to a weight watchers meeting, and as I was leaving to go to my car, a bunch of teenagers in a car oinked at me right as I walked by their window.
My husband recently purchased a really nice bike for me so that we can ride together. I’m so appreciative that he’s suppoorting me as we try to lose weight. We were loading it into our car in the parking lot after we bought it, and he was teaching me to take the wheels off. Some jerk drove by in a mini-van and yelled “Nice tits, baby!”, right in the middle of a shopping center parking lot. Needless to say I was really really embarassed.
Then when we were riding today, and were heading home, we passed a bunch of people hanging out on the sidewalk a few streets from our home. One guy rode up on a little kids bike and said “wanna race?” to which I politely said no thanks, and then another man said really loud. “You’re too big to be on that bike, “guhl”! ” and they all laughed. WTFrick? Obviously, I’m on this bike because I’m trying to lose weight so leave me alone. And who wrote the law that says if you’re fat people can suddenly decide what you’re entitled to do?
It may be just a few morons out there, but it makes me really mad, and frankly kind of sad that it’s socially acceptable to treat people that way. And to top it all off, I’m out there trying to do something about being “too big” and people STILL have a problem with me.
It’s not like I’m wearing revealing clothing or anything. Excercise capri pants and a tank top or t-shirt with fitted sports bras underneath. I guess I could wear sweats but it’s still in the 90s at 5:30 in the evening here. The last two things happened when my husband was with me. At this point I won’t even walk the dog without him. There’s no telling what would happen if I was by myself. I’d probably pepper-spray some jerk.
Being fat it seems is one of the only accpetable things to discriminate and make fun of….keep your chin up and dont let those losers get you down!
I’m so sorry those jerks treated you that way…just hang in there and dont let those losers get to you. Funny enough, I have never had men say anything bad to me (not to my face anyway) but that hasn’t stopped women….wore a regular tank top with a shirt over it to a club one night…only 97 degrees outside…and as soon as we walked in (my sister and I-both big women)..a skinny girl made a comment as we walked by…I told my sister…hey look..aww poor skinny thing…the only reason I can think she would say something like that…is cause she jealous….why else make a catty remark?…girl got mad..my sister laughed.
I almost wonder if they are saying things to get a rise out of my husband . . .and I left off the part where I told that guy today . . .”Oh yeah, well I’m big enough to kick your ass too” . . I believe I also told the oinking teens to go do something to themselves . . .I think that’s the part that makes me feel the worst . . that I stoop to that level b/c I get so mad . . .
So sorry girl. You know someone didn’t raise those people right. It seems like there are alot of people that think bigger people are lazy and should do something to lose weight and then when people do try and lose weight they get slammed. You can’t win either way. Geeze. I know it hurts but don’t listen to the losers. That’s all they are. Losers with too much time on their hands.
i’m so sorry you had (have) to put up with that crap! people are jerks sometimes… and WonderWoman is right- don’t listen to them! cool though that your husband is supporting you and you got a new bike
I’m sorry you have to deal with ignorant people. Just keep doing your thing and ignore them. You have a great husband to support you and that means more than any words thrown in your direction from those losers.
yeah, we are seriously the last “minority” that it is still ok to harass… no more N word, no more female cracks, no Sp (spanish/latino slam) etc, but heaven forbid that you are a bit fluffy, the EVERYBODY gets a say…
ditto on the don’t listen, but I know it’s not that easy… I get the “I’ll show them” attitude, but still beat MYSELF up over it, when I should be mad at them…
one day at a time… maybe you could write down some positive things about you to read when you are feeling down… you’re sensitive and insightful, and I’m sure your hubby has his own list
too…
People are real idiots. I know the feeling—darned if you do and darned if you don’t. Here’s the thing—don’t give up!!! I have found in the past that people who yell out ugly things like that and have smart remarks are insecure people in themselves. They feel like if they can make everyone around them feel/look worse than they are, then they are “the better man”. They are just ignorant, insecure people when all is said an done. You hold your head high. You keep on keeping. Don’t let these losers get the best of you. You, girl, will be the big WINNER in the end!!!!
Sandi